How To Get Past Kid Defenses When “Talking Adoption”

Dear Parents, Sometimes your best-laid plans for talking adoption with your kids get sabotaged! Right? You’ve thought deeply about what to share/ask, determined the best time, and perhaps even rehearsed possible scenarios and outcomes. The pre-planned time arrives and you ask, “How about talking about adoption for a few minutes?” Many parents hear responses like these: • “Nope.” Child then

Read more

La Historia de Moises

La madre de Moisés, Jochebed, siente sus primeros dolores de parto una tarde. Al llegar el atardecer nació un hermoso niño. Era una experiencia dulce y amarga al mismo tiempo para ella, porque la muerte estaba asediando en su puerta. El Faraón, el malvado rey de Egipto, desesperado para no dejar a los israelitas florecer y al final quitarle su

Read more

What Others Are Saying About Forever Fingerprints Book

How fun, as we anticipate the shiny new books coming from the printer, to receive endorsements from wonderful people. Since I’m doing radio with Rebecca Swan Vahle today on Family to Family, I thought you might enjoy what she says about Forever Fingerprints: Forever Fingerprints is my all-time favorite adoption book! It not only gives adoptive families a concrete way

Read more

This Savvy Adoptive Mama Isn’t Shakin’ In Her Boots!

See this little chickie? Isn’t she the cutest thing ever? She’s happy as can be because her mama knows what kinds of feelings and thoughts are floating around in that precious little mind. Her mama is savvy because she’s read every adoption book she can get her hands on. She knows the right time and place for conversations and looks

Read more

Sneak Peek at the Upcoming Book for Adoptees!

Adoption was like a door with a peak hole: the only times I looked through it were when somebody asked my nationality or when I had to fill in a medical form. I said the words many adoptees detest: “I don’t know…I was adopted.” My parents told me I was adopted at a young age, but that was it. It

Read more

Who Is Jesus, Anyway?

Thirty years ago I was “dragged” to a Bible study class and took my 2-year-old daughter with me. I checked her into the children’s program and then entered an auditorium filled with women. Up front was a woman talking about how you could have a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ. I thought the people were all weird, and

Read more

Which Adoption Topic Would You Like to Hear About?

Dear friends, Since having my last knee replacement surgery, I’ve done no public speaking. I’m testing the waters in this blog to see what your interest is in new talks I am developing. Please respond and let me know what interests you the most, okay? Here they are: 1. The Answer for Adoptee Anger 2. The Flip Side of the

Read more

Adoptees Explain Boo-Hoo Birthdays

Let’s think about the concept of birthdays for adoptees. First, what does a birthday represent for the non-adopted person? For most, it’s a happy time, built on the foundation of being welcomed into the world. A time for birthday cakes, parties, and balloons. Now consider an adoptee’s birthday. What does a birthday represent for him? It represents the day of

Read more

One Adoptee’s 69th Birthday Reflections

“Look!” the people around the campfire called out, pointing to the cypress trees that lined the famous Monterrey, California grill. Suddenly, a bagpiper came out of the woods, playing a melancholy tune. She wore authentic bagpiper regalia, walking through the field toward us. It was a special touch to an evening that we didn’t think could be any better. That’s

Read more
« Older Entries